Trust yourself!

I feel like I have been hearing a lot about trust within relationships or rather a lack of it over the last couple of weeks.  A friend told me of her endeavours to find out if her husband was lying to her about his work Christmas party, while another acquaintance informed me that she was trying to find out about her partners credit history after noticing a note on his file during a bank meeting.  Following on from that I then read an article in the Guardian earlier this week about the rise in lady detective agencies in Mumbai, with people who now instruct detectives to carry out pre marital searches on people and even hire spy's when someone so much as cancel's a date with them.  Jeez, all of this made me constrict around the throat, mainly because I would hate the thought of somebody doing that to me, how have we become so repressive?  It made me question why people have a need to have all of this information about somebody, and I think it is because increasingly we want to get everything that we need from just one person, we hate the thought that somebody could be lying to us because then our happiness might fall through.  The strange thing is a lot of the time people don't want this information so they can walk away from a bad situation, they want it so they can manipulate and coerce that person back into doing what they think they should be doing, back to providing the secure future that they were meant to be providing.  Since leaving a relationship where I felt lied to, manipulated and taken for a fool, I have made an effort to just place all of my trust in myself, it really doesn't concern me too much now if somebody lies to me or tries to manipulate me because I know I trust myself to know how to take care of my own needs.  I no longer believe that my happiness is within another person, it s in my own hands.  If somebody in a future relationship cheats on me, well more fool them because I was a good catch, if somebody has debts the truth will come out and I wont have placed all of my financial security with them, if somebody cancels a date with me and I think they might be making up an excuse, oh well I am not short of things to do.  Keep yourself protected, and understand that you might be let down by somebody one day but know that you have a deep trust within yourself and your own abilities and that you know how to survive and how to be happy.