Wednesday, 18 November 2015

Not feeling very well, Neighbours 'The Fire' and giving relationship advice! Wednesday 18th November 2015



Hey guys, hope you are all doing well today? It’s almost 3 o’clock on Wednesday so we are almost over that hump now and on the slide towards the weekend.

I haven’t been feeling very well this week.  I get random little bouts of sinusitis that I tend to get every few weeks.  I have been getting them since I had glandular fever about 5 years ago, and I was told that the virus made my immune system super sensitive and it attacks basically everything that it doesn’t like which in turn makes me feel poorly.  When I get the sinusitis it tends to only last for 3 or 4 days and I never get very ill, I just seem to get very congested and have a high temperature and generally feel run down.  I just hate it because it does affect my productivity and mood, but I know it will pass son enough and there are worse things that I could have to live with.

Putting feeling unwell aside, I actually had a very nice weekend.  I stayed with my sister on Friday night at her house in London and had a nice girlie evening watching Goggle-box and Children in need.  On Saturday we went Wedding dress shopping for her and we found ‘The One’.  I wasn’t expecting to actually feel that moved by her choosing a dress but I found it very emotional.  I absolutely adore the dress that she chose, and I think I knew as soon as I saw her in it that I thought it was made for her and that she looked like a perfect Disney princess in it.  It is definitely a very special moment being there when somebody chooses the dress to say their  ‘I Do’s’ in, so  if you haven’t ever been wedding dress shopping with somebody and you get the opportunity, then go for it.

On Sunday I had a complete chill out day just catching up on TV.  My Dad was out for the whole day so it was nice to have the place to myself.  One thing that I am still getting used to with moving from living on my own to living with somebody is how rare it is to get full day’s to yourself.  I caught up on X Factor in the morning which I am really loving this year.  I really like Che, Louisa and Lauren and I was really obsessed with Monica so I was gutted to see her go.  I am still not really sure why the public didn’t take to her because we normally like very down to earth people, but I think it is hard for the contestants in the early stage of the competition to get their personalities across in very short VT clips.

On Sunday afternoon it was time for me to catch up on something that I have been putting off for a while – watching ‘The Fire’ episodes of Neighbours.  If you don’t watch Neighbours then this won’t interest you at all, so apologies for that.  I am literally so obsessed with Neighbours that whenever there is a big episode coming up where people might get hurt or will be in danger, I generally have to psych myself up to watch it.  I put my brave pants on Sunday and watched the episodes, and although there was a lot of drama during those episodes I was relieved that nobody died.  I thought my heart might burst when Tyler told Paige that he has been secretly in love with her, I feel like I have been waiting the whole of the year for Tyler and Paige to just get together already!

As well as not being very well, this week has been a little bit stressful because I have been helping a friend who is going through a difficult time in her relationship.  It’s been around three years since I broke up with my ex and during 2015 I suddenly found closure on the whole situation after three painful years of working things through.  Even though a lot of time has passed since the break-up, I still find other people’s relationship problems very triggering, but I still want to help people that I care about.  When you have been in a situation where you have walked away from a horrible relationship and never gone back, and ultimately survived it all, you just want to tell people who are being messed around to do the same, but you have to put yourself back in that position and remember how hard you found it to get the strength to walk away.  I guess what I find difficult about helping people with their relationship problems is the amount of time you spend giving advice and helping them, only for them to listen to none of it and just gloss over everything once their partner apologises and tells them what they want to hear.  I think what I try to remember is that it is only my job to be a supportive friend and that the relationship is on its own path and that my friend has to learn her own lessons, just like I had to three years ago.

 

When I see other people’s relationship drama’s it does make me feel very glad that I am no longer in a stressful relationship that is full of anxiety and tension.  I guess what I am trying to say is, that at the moment I am glad I am single!

 

Thanks for listening! xxx


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